Belonging can happen with millions (political parties, religions, etc.), with thousands (sporting events, concerts etc.) and hundreds and tens (church congregations, bars, etc.), but we believe the greatest personal change occurs when we are in small groups of 2-5 people. In small groups we can listen and be heard, know and to be known, and where the greatest authenticity can occur.
"The small group is the unit of transformation. The small group is the structure that allows every voice to be heard. It is in groups of 3 to 12 that intimacy is created. This intimate conversation makes the process personal. It provides the structure where people overcome isolation and where the experience of belonging is created.
In the small group discussion we discover that our own concerns are more universal than we imagined. This discovery that we are not alone, that others can at least understand what is on our mind, if not agree with us, is what creates the feeling of belonging."- Peter Block, Community, The Structure of Belonging (p. 204, 205)